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Sports Parenting in 10 Sentences
1 word: Hi. Greet your child when they get in the car with “Hi” before you ask about practice, the score of the game or homework.
2 words: Have fun. In all likelihood you’ve heard this statistic: 70% of kids quit sports before they turn 13 for the primary reason that they are not having fun. Encourage and remind your kids to have fun.
3 words: Tell me more. Before forming an opinion or dispensing advice, ask for more information from your child. This will force them to tell more of the story and give you more information as to what is actually happening.
4 words: Good job. Keep working. Doc Rivers, head coach of the Los Angeles Clippers and parent of a NBA player suggests these four words. Rivers notes that as parents we are often tempted to say more and analyze their kids performance, but saying only this might be what’s best for the kid who simply needs support.
5 words: What’s new in your world? Ask your kids general questions that are not about gymnastics. Even if the reply is “nothing” it gives you the opportunity to share something about your day.
6 words: I love to watch you play. Best six words ever.
7 words: So what do you think about that? You know your opinion, so before you jump to tell your child what it is, ask what his/her opinion is. You are not only learning more about what your child thinks but are also helping develop critical thinking skills.
8 words: Is there something I can do to help? Before you give a solution or an action plan, ask if that is what the child really wants. Sometimes all the child wants to do is blow off some steam, and we jump directly to “solving” the problem.
9 words: You are more important to me than your achievements. You may be thinking that of course this is true. But remind your child of it. In the absence of hearing this from you, your children might think that one of the reasons you love them is because of what they do, not because of who they are.
10 words: No matter what, I’m glad that I am your parent. To be loved wholly and completely for exactly who we are, flaws and all, is the greatest gift one person can give another. Please give that gift to your child.
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Reblogged this on Childcare of Brandon @ Brandon Town Center and commented:
This is a good read for parents with children in sports….good advice.
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Thank you for sharing this. Good advice.
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Great advice!
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Good advice for kids period. When kids mess up they know it, you do not have to analyze their every move or tell them what they should have done. Best words–I love to watch you play baseball, play the saxophone, dance, sing, etc.
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Reblogged this on Another year of racking up the Ks and commented:
Solid tips for parents
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Good job. So good we shared it on FB to our league!
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thank you!
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Wow this is excellent advice. Can I print it and give this to some friends of mine who have children who are athletes??
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of course! thanks!
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😊
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Reblogged this on Checking Backpacks and commented:
With the warm weather comes summer sports. With over 70% of kids quitting sports before age 13 how can we encourage, but not put too much pressure on them.
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Reblogged this on God Loves Bummyla and commented:
I Love This!
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What very good advice. With this of course are the parents actions and restrictions on the child that could hinder their progress. These can be many fold, but as far as I can see they are:-
1. Living their life through their child’s eyes.
2. Outrageous social constraints because practice comes first and last. This is related to No.1.
No parent can get it right all of the time, but an insightful selfless one will ask the coach, help me so I can help you help my child.
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Excellent points, Barry! Thanks for reading and commenting!
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Reblogged this on Danelle Kabush and commented:
Some great succinct advice here!
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Reblogged this on confessions of a swim coach and commented:
A great article thank you
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Ann this is such a simple way to make good things happen between parents and children regarding sports….and so many other subjects. You have great insight. I am going to re-post in the NOTES section of a Facebook page on Education and will link back to here if that is ok! Thank you! LOVE THIS!
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Thank you and of course!
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thank you, Jan!
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Definitely every parent should use these they are all self esteem building words, not to mention you will learn more about your kids than waiting for them to ask you about these things or tell you about how they feel. Very good advice thank you!
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Love this. Simple, but straight to the point. I also love the progression from one word to ten. Thanks for posting it. Have you checked out Proactive Coaching and “Liked” their FB page? You would love it. I am one of the speakers in the organization, and I love the mission we are on and the messages we give to coaches, athletes, and parents every day. In fact, #6 on your list comes from our “Role of Parents in Athletics” presentation/booklet. Check us out sometime if you haven’t already. Thanks for helping spread positive messages for youth athletics!
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Yes i have a suggestion for parents and athletic children. Please do not bully those who are not athletic. Its a problem. Teachers glorify athletes in school and ignore the mathletes and others. Sad to say it still goes on in schools. Everyone is different and should be praised. The athletes from my high school memories were bullies! But glorified! Parents please teach your kids not to forget those who maybe where not taught to compete … Many parents dont get it so maybe try to help those who want to do sports but dont have supportive parents?
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great point Lea! Sports are for everyone, not just those who are athletically gifted.
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wonderful post. I loved it. I would like to be a loving parnt to my kids. There is so much more to learn
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Worth reading and revisiting from time to time.
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I really enjoyed reading this. Even though it seem such an easy and expected thing to do, it really isn’t all that common. This could be applied to all areas concerning their life not just sports. It’s definitely a positive gateway for building a stronger relationship
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thank you!
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This really helps me take a step back, boy I feel bad. Thanks for this advice.
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None of us are perfect parents, because there is no such thing! We all are just trying to get better each day and do the right thing for our kids. Believe me, much of what I write about comes from my own errors. 🙂
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What do you say to your child when he receives a dirty, late hit end up with a concussion and a 7x4x3 laceration to the eye brow area. There needs to he better coaching regarding the basic skills of the game. Thi is not football.
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hi Joe, Ugh…that is horrific and I am so so sorry your child was injured. you are spot on about coaching too. children need to be taught proper fundamentals and sportsmanship. i hope your boy is healing and i am sure he is getting the support (both medically and emotionally) that he needs.
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