12 Things to Let Go Of Heading into 2016

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As we move into 2016, consider these dozen things to let go of that are no longer serving you:

Let go of that voice in your head that tells you that you are not good enough, that you will never succeed or that you “suck.” Instead, remember that those voices are liars and remind yourself to speak kindly to everyone, even yourself!

Let go of the need to constantly compare yourself to others. Your journey is unique to you. Instead, learn to be happy for others’ strengths and appreciate your own gifts.

Let go of the obsession of greener pastures. If things are no longer a fit and a change is in order, by all means make one. But constantly having one foot out the door surveying to see if by jumping ship you will have a better experience, you rob yourself from fully committing to the relationships you are actually involved in.   Work on making the club where you work, train or send your child one that benefits the community.

Let go of blaming others and criticizing their efforts. It’s easier to point fingers than to accept accountability and to tear down what others have built. Instead, remember most people are doing the best that they can and that when they miss the mark it is not intentional or with malice. Assume good faith and seek to understand before attacking them.

Let go of turning a blind eye when it comes to protecting those who cannot protect themselves. Hopefully none of us will come across any behavior of adults that is questionable toward a child, but it is always incumbent upon all of us to protect children’s physical, mental and emotional well-being.

Let go of having everyone needing to like you and validate you. Instead, remember that it is a badge of honor to have certain people dislike you. If you stand for everything, you stand for nothing.

Let go of the failures of the past year. Instead, use them as stepping stone toward your new goals for 2016 and be proud of yourself for getting up to fight another day.

Let go of the “should haves” and “could haves.” They are in the past. Leave them there. Things don’t always work out the way we wanted them to. Instead, make the best of the way things work out or work to change the circumstances. Either way, stewing about the past is futile.

Let go of gossip. Both listening to and speaking it but also doing your best to not allow it to hurt your feelings when you find out people are spreading gossip about you.   Instead, remember that people who gossip are often in the habit of belittling others to feel good about themselves. Their gossip often has little to do with hurting you and everything to do with empowering them.

Let go of negative attitudes and self-pity. They just aren’t useful. Instead, consider that you are the constant denominator in every scenario in your life. So what are you bringing to the table to make it as positive as possible?  Feeling sad and upset are normal parts of life, but adopting a pessimistic, woe-is-me persona is never useful.

Let go of past hurts and grudges. It does not mean you need to let everyone back in your life who has hurt you but you also do not need to hold onto the pain they caused you either.   Instead, free yourself from the weight of the burden of carrying around anger and resentment. Maybe they have changed and are better for the difficult time that passed between you…or maybe just let karma take care of it. J

Let go of being anything other than the best version of you. You are enough.

What about you?  Is there anything not on this list that you want to let go of in 2016?